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Four Reasons I Cheated

20 September, 2013

Confession: Why I Cheated On My Husband by Marina Pearson The four reasons I unearthed and what they taught me about love. “How could you have done this to me, to us? Who are you and who did I marry?” With tears in his eyes, my ex-husband shouted and screamed …

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Causes of Affairs

15 September, 2013

Causes of Affairs: Why Do People Cheat on Their Partners? by Margaret Paul PhD (edited) Self-Abandonment Cheating is quite common and the reasons are multiple. Rather than reviewing the many reasons that are the causes of affairs, I’m going to focus on one of the main one — self-abandonment. Self-abandonment …

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Affairs and Addiction: Part 2

3 June, 2013
Moth to a Flame

The IHG position on the sex addiction model is discussed in: Part 3: Affair Fog Theory: Sex Addiction ~ Wayfarer [hr] Affairs: The Flame Addiction By Dr Scott Haltzman Part 2: In the second installment of a 3-part series, Dr. Haltzman explains—like a moth to a flame—why those who cheat …

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Affairs After Mother’s Day Disappointments

13 May, 2013

A light-hearted look at the affair justification of, “I had an affair because I felt unappreciated on Mother’s Day” which is highlighted in AshMad’s registration statistics. This is a tongue-in-cheek article written by Rebel Wylie, an Australian mother who felt unappreciated and yet didn’t have an affair. ~ Wayfarer [hr] …

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Affairs & Infidelity: Choice not Addiction

3 May, 2013
Infidelity & Affair Help: Psychology

As we explored in It’s Not Infidelity - It’s Sex Addiction, despite popular culture labels, the idea of sex addiction is not based on any diagnostic criteria and was again recently excluded from the DSM (American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders). Claiming ‘sex addiction’ as cause …

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Affairs: An Overview

8 February, 2013
Affairs and Jealousy

A Psychologist’s Perspective on Affairs by Dr Janet Reibstein Studying affairs Twenty years ago I began an interview study* of couples in which one person (at least) was having or had had an affair. As a new parent, I could not fathom how contemporaries of mine had the inclination or …

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Infidelity: How Did We End Up Here?

31 January, 2013

When Infatuation Veers Toward Disenchantment by Christine Meinecke, Ph.D. Remember Jeff Goldblum’s line from Jurassic Park?  “Oh, yeah.  Oooh, ahhh, that’s how it always starts, but then later there’s running, then screaming.” Infatuation  Romantic relationships almost always start out “oooh, ahhh.” Of course, older and wiser people tell us that …

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Lance Armstrong, Spiral Dynamics & Infidelity

23 January, 2013

Thinking Systems in Infidelity I don’t accept the commonly espoused opinion that infidelity is, at its core, caused by low self-esteem in the cheater. In my experience cheaters mostly demonstrate quite the opposite - and I might even suggest that often, cheaters can be rather revoltingly full of themselves. Infidelity …

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Infidelity: An Affair of Deception

21 January, 2013

Deception: The Real Villain Behind Relationship Infidelity by Lisa Firestone, Ph.D. When we are honest with our partners, we are true to ourselves. When the topic of infidelity spills into our daily dose of media, we may say we saw it coming, or we may react with shock. Either way, …

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The Brain Systems, Love & Infidelity

19 January, 2013

Why We Love, Why We Cheat By Helen Fisher Anthropologist Helen Fisher takes on a tricky topic – love (and infidelity) – and explains its evolution, its biochemical foundations and its social importance. She closes with a warning about the potential disaster inherent in antidepressant abuse. Anthropologist Helen Fisher studies …

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