Tag Archives: martyrdom

Martyr to the Marriage

14 October, 2013

Being committed to a healthy, respectful, and fulfilling marriage is an admirable trait, but what happens after an affair hits the relationship? Committed relationships aren’t perfect relationships, and most of us would agree that even where relationships are robust and honest they are still flawed in unique ways. Part of …

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Staying With a Cheater For the Kids

18 June, 2013
Infidelity & Affair Help: Chump Lady

I have received a couple of requests to add material and articles about children affected by infidelity, whether they are the product of an affair or of the primary relationship. Over the years I have heard many people justify their inaction in the face of their partner’s affair, as being …

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After Affair Discovery: Taking Your Time

22 May, 2013

Often, in the immediate aftermath of affair discovery, the faithful partner feels significant pressure to ‘decide’ and to ‘act’. Not only does ‘taking action’ help negate the sense of powerlessness, but there can be considerable external pressures to behave in certain ways. On sites such as these, there is often …

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Affair Help: Negative Thoughts and Acceptance

2 May, 2013

An affair can bring your self-esteem and view of the world crashing down around you, while you stand frozen in rage and disbelief. Moving past outrage and moralizing about what is wrong about an affair can be difficult. Most affair help offers very little in concrete advice for how to …

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Affair Help: Negative Thinking

16 April, 2013
Infidelity & Affair Help: Choosing The Past

After an affair has devastated their relationship, many are stripped of their self-esteem, their positive view of the world, and their trust in other people. It’s not uncommon for those entering a new life as a single person to feel that they will be alone forever. For some this can …

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Affairs: Letting Go of the Past

6 April, 2013

Affairs: Victor or Victim - It’s Your Choice by Elizabeth Denham As long as you think that the cause of your problem is “out there”-as long as you think that anyone or anything is responsible for your suffering-the situation is hopeless. It means that you are forever in the role …

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Affair Help: Abandonment

12 March, 2013

Being left by a cheater for the affair partner, is painful. The feelings of rejection, anger, jealousy, and frustration are difficult emotions to deal with and to work past, especially in the face of people doling out the continual advice of “It’s time to move on”. But they’re right. There …

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Standing: Shackling Yourself to Your Cheater

1 March, 2013

Standing Standing is a term used in infidelity forums that describes a faithful partner’s refusal to accept the demise of a relationship, regardless of the actions of the cheater. It could be defined as the faithful partner committing to and maintaining a unilateral relationship in perpetuity, despite the cheater’s actions, …

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The Infidelity Gift That Keeps Giving

24 December, 2012

With today merrily prancing towards Christmas, like a sparkly, nauseatingly chirpy Elf, determined to guilt us into celebrating goodwill towards all, it brings with it memories that I wish had not been made. However, made they were, and I have been reflecting on how we react, act, and progress after …

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Feeding the Infidelity Monster

17 December, 2012
Feeding the Infidelity Monster

I found an article from The Ranch called Lost Your Enthusiasm for Recovery? It’s not about infidelity, marriage, or any of the subject matter that typically links to those issues. However, whilst written as a support for recovering addicts, it could also have been written for those whose worlds have just …

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