Christmas Day @ Infidelity Help Group

Wishing you all a tranquil and peaceful Christmas. If you find yourself here today for the first time dealing with an affair at Christmas and searching for help and support, my heartfelt sympathies and best wishes are with you. There may be users in the Chat Room but it is probably …

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What Therapy Teaches Cheaters

Avoid Marital Therapy

Rushing Off to Therapy When you’re flailing around like a dying fish in the face of your spouse’s infidelity, you will probably hear a chorus of advice sending you off to a marriage counselor or couple’s therapist. On the surface, it makes a lot of sense, right? In our view …

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Infidelity and Divorce: Divorce Day

3rd January Named Most Popular Day for Divorce Happy New Year? It might not be a surprise to those who frequent infidelity support boards, but some firms quote the rate of divorce inquiries in the New Year as almost double the normal rates. Elizabeth Hassall, partner in the Gateley law …

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What Can We Learn From Celebrity Infidelity?

Celebrity Infidelity You might well be groaning at the idea of a post about celebrity cheaters or their faithful celebrity partners. You might even be rolling your eyes at yet another account of some tawdry affair in the public eye or yet ANOTHER spurious claim of sex addiction. I understand. You’d be …

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Denial, Dreams, and Divorce

The Left-Behind Spouse Most infidelity is met by one or both spouses knee-jerking to preserve the marriage. This understandable, immediate response is often replaced by one spouse choosing to leave the marriage entirely, leaving the other clinging to it doggedly (most commonly the faithful spouse), fearful and lost. The faithful spouse opposes the legitimacy of …

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The Halo and Horns Effect

Affairs and the Halo and Horns Effect The halo and horns effect is a common tendency to allow bias from the brief observation of a person (or even from a single trait or circumstance) to color the judgment of that person as a whole. It’s understandable that we make these …

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The Dreaded Details

Knowing the Details of an Affair It’s a question that gets asked frequently on infidelity discussion boards: “Should I ask for the details?” It’s understandable that jealousy, fear, and upset can lead the faithful spouse to obsessing about the other person and how their cheater conducted the affair relationship. Many faithful …

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12 Affair Rules for the Other Woman

Mistresses’ Affair Rules Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness Our societal structure supports our right to create the life we want for ourselves, and to work towards our dreams and desires - in fact, we are positively encouraged to pursue our happiness. Unfortunately, our single-minded pursuit of our own satisfaction often comes …

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