Infidelity & Affairs: “You Can’t Handle the Truth!”

Lies in Affairs You don’t need to be a psychologist to understand that infidelity is severely damaging to relationships and families, and you certainly don’t...

Don’t Be A Sheeple - Infidelity Myths

Myths of Infidelity Source: PsychologyToday The people who are running from bed to bed creating disasters for themselves and everyone else don’t seem to know...

It’s Not Infidelity - It’s Sex Addiction

Claiming a sex addiction can seem to some like a legitimate and compelling excuse for infidelity. It allows that the infidelity and betrayal wasn’t personal,...

Gaslighting & Infidelity

Gaslighting and Denial I was browsing some articles from my RSS feed and happened across an article that listed some excuses that cheaters have given...

Affair Help: The Cheater Code

The Members of Affair Website Present … The 10 Commandments of Being a Good Affair Partner It’s not well known, but there is a code...

Affair Help: The Cheater Code Deciphered

It’s often a source of amusement in our Affair Help Chat Room that there is a Cheater’s Handbook out there somewhere. Perhaps a single dog-eared...

The Trickle Truth

The post You Can’t Handle the Truth dealt with the issue of a cheater lying to the faithful partner to either preserve the relationship, minimize...

Affair Help: Do Affairs Save Marriages?

There are many articles that are similar to yesterday’s post Affairs Can Save a Marriage: Myth or Mendacity? that are extolling the virtues of having...

Infidelity and the Business of Controversy

The Business of Affairs and Infidelity Infidelity is a growing and profitable business, predicted to continue on its upward trend. In direct response to the...

The Illusion that Infidelity Built

The Rationalization Behind Cheating by huxbux at The Thought Refuse (edited) Chances are if you’re an adult, you’ve been in a relationship that ended because either...

Approaching Infidelity Eyes Wide Open

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Affair Fog Theory

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Understanding Infidelity

Don't Cheat Yourself Too: The IHG Affair Survival Thinking-Kit to help you survive and cope with your cheater's affair, by reframing and challenging your thinking.

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Christmas Day @ Infidelity Help Group

25 December, 2014

Wishing you all a tranquil and peaceful Christmas. If you find yourself here today for the first time dealing with an affair at Christmas and searching for help and support, my heartfelt sympathies and best wishes are with you. There may be users in the Chat Room but it is probably …

What Therapy Teaches Cheaters

24 December, 2014

Rushing Off to Therapy When you’re flailing around like a dying fish in the face of your spouse’s infidelity, you will probably hear a chorus of advice sending you off a marriage counselor or couple’s therapist. On the surface, it makes a lot of sense, right? In our view and …

Infidelity and Divorce: Divorce Day

23 December, 2014

3rd January Named Most Popular Day for Divorce Happy New Year? It might not be a surprise to those who frequent infidelity support boards, but some firms quote the rate of divorce inquiries in the New Year as almost double the normal rates. Elizabeth Hassall, partner in the Gateley law …

What Can We Learn From Celebrity Infidelity?

23 December, 2014

Celebrity Infidelity You might well be groaning at the idea of a post about celebrity cheaters or their faithful celebrity partners. You might even be rolling your eyes at yet another account of some tawdry affair in the public eye or yet ANOTHER spurious claim of sex addiction. I understand. You’d be …

Denial, Dreams, and Divorce

22 December, 2014

The Left-Behind Spouse Most infidelity is met by one or both spouses knee-jerking to preserve the marriage. This understandable, immediate response is often replaced by one spouse choosing to leave the marriage entirely, leaving the other clinging to it doggedly (most commonly the faithful spouse), fearful and lost. The faithful spouse opposes the legitimacy of …

The Halo and Horns Effect

19 December, 2014

Affairs and the Halo and Horns Effect The halo and horns effect is a common tendency to allow bias from the brief observation of a person (or even from a single trait or circumstance) to color the judgment of that person as a whole. It’s understandable that we make these …

Infidelity & Affairs: “You Can’t Handle the Truth!”

Don’t Be A Sheeple - Infidelity Myths

It’s Not Infidelity - It’s Sex Addiction

Gaslighting & Infidelity

Affair Help: The Cheater Code

Affair Help: The Cheater Code Deciphered

The Trickle Truth

Affair Help: Do Affairs Save Marriages?

Infidelity and the Business of Controversy

The Illusion that Infidelity Built

Approaching Infidelity Eyes Wide Open

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Affair Fog Theory

Understanding Infidelity

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