Accepting Their Right to Cheat

Surviving the Affair: Accepting Their Right to Cheat Before you reach for the smelling salts, no, infidelity is not an ethical or just choice. Yes, it’s unfair that someone else’s choices have a negative and destructive impact on us. Causing someone else pain by our own selfish choices is reprehensible. …

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Affairs and the Married Man

Infidelity & Affair Help: Lisa Merlo-Booth

Responding to the Advances of the Married Man by Lisa Merlo-Booth I wrote a post a while back about women going after married men (in response to an article written on the topic) and received a comment from a woman stating that women are often not to blame for affairs. …

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Infidelity Approval Rating

Infidelity & Affair Help: Dr Haltzman

Related post about the infidelity approval ratings referred to in this post: Marital Infidelity Disapproval Rate ~ Wayfarer [hr] The Morality of Infidelity by Scott Haltzman, M.D. Earlier this week, the Huffington Post reviewed the remarkable findings of a Gallup poll that sought to find exactly where the needle sits …

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Should You Confess Your Extramarital Affair?

Infidelity Help: Self-Deception

Extramarital Affair: Should You Tell Your Spouse You Cheated? Expert Weighs In By Ashley Reich (edited) You’ve had an affair. Does that mean your marriage is over? Not necessarily, according to Dr. Scott Haltzman, author of “The Secrets of Surviving Infidelity.” In fact, according to the author, “many people will …

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Affair Help: Entitlement & Self-Loathing

The Adulterous Sins of Our Father Figures By Benjamin Nugent Several years ago, my mother’s partner sent me an e-mail confessing to an emotional affair. He wrote that although he and my mother were breaking up, he wished to remain my friend. I reminded him that his infraction had been …

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Affair Help: The Other Person’s Obligations

Infidelity & Affair Help: A Fresh Perspective

Helping him become what he pledged not to be: Another perspective on the problem of infidelity By Hugo Schwyzer (edited) I’m turning to an email I got from a woman last week. “Tara” wrote another in the series of missives from young (21) year-old women contemplating a relationship with an …

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Affair Help: The Cheater Code Deciphered

It’s often a source of amusement in our Affair Help Chat Room that there is a Cheater’s Handbook out there somewhere. Perhaps a single dog-eared copy that gets passed around via the library system? Maybe it’s magically delivered by the affair equivalent of a stork when the choice to have …

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