Tag Archives: blame shifting
The Power of Mayonnaise
Changing Yourself After Discovering the Affair Have you found yourself vigorously scrubbing the toilet with your toothbrush, considering giving yourself an industrial strength Lysol swirly, as the words, “You’re a terrible housekeeper” ring in your ears? Maybe you’ve swathed yourself in foil and plastic cling wrap like a modern-day mummy, …
The Guilt Trip to Therapy
Pat Robertson on Affairs: Well, He’s a Man, Okay?
Your husband had an affair? Provide a better home. That’s the message that televangelist Pat Robertson conveyed in an episode of “The 700 Club” to a wife seeking help to get over her husband’s infidelity. This has resulted in some considerable backlash, prompting the Christian Broadcasting Network to release a …
Affairs & Infidelity: Choice not Addiction
As we explored in It’s Not Infidelity - It’s Sex Addiction, despite popular culture labels, the idea of sex addiction is not based on any diagnostic criteria and was again recently excluded from the DSM (American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders). Claiming ‘sex addiction’ as cause …
Affair Help: The Modern Affair Myth
I’ve previously addressed this absurd idea that affairs can somehow improve your relationship, with posts addressing this currently popular myth. This article by Dr Broder takes a similar tack, asking ‘Can an affair make your relationship stronger?’ There is a very simple and concise answer to the question he posed, …
Affair Help: Abuse, Blame & Minimization
This article ties in with yesterday’s post where the idea that a cheater was ‘driven’ to an affair by the faithful partner was addressed (or ridiculed, let’s be honest). Tracy Schorn homes in on the issue of blame being apportioned to the cheater. My only comment is this: HOPIUM? This …
Affair Help: Driven to an Affair
Sites like this exist because so many people turn to the internet for affair help, seeking advice, support and information. There are numerous articles (easily accessible) written by the users of sites like these, or by journalists and authors, and some are written by therapists or divorce lawyers. The idea …
Affairs: Sex, Drugs and Mental Health
People have affairs regardless of their sexual history: Some cheaters engage in an affair having had only one previous sexual partner (the faithful partner) and some have affairs with a history of multiple sexual partners. Whilst there are statistics linking the number of premarital sexual partners to the incidence of …
Affair Help: The Mistress (of Self-Deception)
Affairs and The “Other Woman”: Lies Mistresses Tell Themselves by Lisa Merlo-Booth Affairs unfortunately are impacting countless families and relationships. I decided to address this topic from a different angle - the angle of the mistress. Below are myths that many mistresses in the world believe. While I understand how …
