In the space between yes and no, there’s a lifetime. It’s the difference between the path you walk and the one you leave behind; it’s the gap between who you thought you could be and who you really are; its the legroom for the lies you’ll tell yourself in the future.
~ Jodi Picoult
Tag Archives: rationalization
Affair Rationalizations: Who Stopped You?
When a cheater sets off on the journey to Affairsville, they pack a few items into their bindle before chirpily skipping down the hackneyed path that many others have forged ahead of them. Not least in that little bundle of important items are the cheater’s rationalizations for their affair. These rationalizations come in …
Affairs: How Could You?
Rewriting History
The Cheater Script I’m going to go make a little wager here. I am willing to bet that when you found out about the affair, you had a conversation (or screaming match) with your cheater that had some similarity to this little scenario: “Why an affair? Why that?” “I …
The Power of Mayonnaise
Changing Yourself After Discovering the Affair Have you found yourself vigorously scrubbing the toilet with your toothbrush, considering giving yourself an industrial strength Lysol swirly, as the words, “You’re a terrible housekeeper” ring in your ears? Maybe you’ve swathed yourself in foil and plastic cling wrap like a modern-day mummy, …
Their Needs, Your Faults
Unmet Needs: A Cheater’s Justification “If you had satisfied my needs sexually I wouldn’t have needed to cheat.” “I felt lonely in the marriage so I cheated to feel connected to someone.” “You didn’t give me enough time and attention so I had to look elsewhere for it.” Sound familiar? …
Affair Help: The Cheater Code Deciphered
It’s Not Infidelity - It’s Sex Addiction
Don’t Be A Sheeple - Infidelity Myths
Myths of Infidelity Source: PsychologyToday The people who are running from bed to bed creating disasters for themselves and everyone else don’t seem to know what they are doing. They just don’t get it. But why should they? There is a mythology about infidelity that shows up in the popular …
Why A Cheater Has an Affair
The Art and Science of Cheating by Denise J Charles The more I have witnessed and become acquainted with the stories of couples, both married and unmarried, the more I am convinced that cheating is both an art and a science. Let me explain. Popular culture has done a great job …
