Female Orgasm and Cheating

Dr Justin Lehmiller: Infidelity & Psychology

Does A Woman’s Frequency Of Orgasm Predict Her Likelihood Of Cheating? by Dr. Justin Lehmiller Explaining the evolutionary significance of the female orgasm has long been a conundrum for scientists. Why does the female orgasm exist if it is not necessary for reproduction to occur? Numerous theories abound, with some …

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Infidelity and Attachment Theory

Infidelity & Affair Help: Psychology

Who Is Likely to Be Unfaithful, and Why? by Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D. An inside look at what causes infidelity The perspectives on relationships provided by attachment theory provide important insights in the factors that influence the course of a couple’s dynamics over time.  According to attachment theory, the earliest …

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Affair Help: Attachment Theory

Yesterday’s post discussed how attachment style may influence someone’s decision to stay or leave a dysfunctional relationship. This article by Dr Dylan Selterman explores attachment theory in greater depth. You may also be interested in this post about Love Styles. ~ Wayfarer [hr] Attachment Theory: Explaining Relationship “Styles” by Dr Dylan …

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Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Why Good People Stay in Bad Relationships by Dr Wendy Walsh It may be hard to believe, but I was once in a relationship for nine years where I was so unhappy, I cried nearly every day. A decade later, with a Ph.D. in …

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Affairs: Choice or Mental Disorder?

Dr George Simon

Related posts: It’s Not Infidelity - It’s Sex Addiction Choice Not Addiction ~ Wayfarer [hr] Mental Disorders and Accountability: Is Everyone a Victim? By Dr George Simon, PhD By now everyone has heard about the outrageous statements made by the notorious child rapist Ariel Castro during his arraignment in court …

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Denial

Denial Makes the World Go Round by Benedict Carey Varieties of denial include inattention, passive acknowledgment, re-framing and willful blindness. For years she hid the credit card bills from her husband: The $2,500 embroidered coat from Neiman Marcus. The $900 beaded scarf from Blake in Chicago. A $600 pair of …

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I Didn’t See the Affair Coming: Self-Deception

Infidelity Help: Self-Deception

It’s a familiar story, a faithful partner stunned by the suddenness of their cheater’s affair. Onlookers/friends/family can often quite cruelly exclaim, ‘How could you not have known?’ Sometimes the affair really does blindside the faithful partner, and suggesting that they were in some way ‘stupid’ for not seeing their partner’s …

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Minimization: “It Was ‘Just’ Sex …”

Dr George Simon

The reason that so many affairs are conducted in secret is because the cheater seeks to retain their lifestyle, financial concerns and primary relationship/family, while engaging in an affair. This segregation of the affair relationship from the primary relationship is a manipulation of the faithful partner’s understanding of reality. In …

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The Chase

There is often such confusion in the faithful partner about the draw of the other person, the affair partner. The adage, “the thrill is in the chase” forms part of the explanation for why a cheater pursues an affair partner. So often, when they manage to catch the other person, …

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