Freedom to Reach for Your Dreams

“We attain freedom as we let go of whatever does not reflect our magnificence. A bird cannot fly high or far with a stone tied to its back. But release the impediment, and we are free to soar to unprecedented heights.”

~Alan Cohen

Affair Survival Kit

IHG Affair thinking kit

Over the last couple of months our posts have tried to challenge your thinking and re-frame your responses to your cheater’s affair. All too often support forums and therapists focus on the relationship/marriage, and largely avoid encouraging the pursuit of personal agendas and goals that might result in one of …

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Affairs, Farmville, and the Sunk Cost Fallacy

Questions After the Affair Even after you’ve had time to absorb and process the affair, certain issues just don’t seem to go away. You probably find yourself obsessing over the same questions and upsets over and over again, as if they’re buzzards circling around the dying body of your relationship. …

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The Post Affair Life


Strategic Planning It’s been a little while since you discovered your partner’s affair, and, against all the odds it turned out that infidelity wasn’t fatal after all. Who knew? You’ve done all the right things so far - you’ve registered at every infidelity support forum you can find. You’ve read …

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Heroes and Villains

The Thing

The Infidelity Super Villain Ever wondered how Clark Kent got away with ‘hiding’ his real identity by combing his hair differently, and wearing some glasses? Or how nobody seemed to notice that beneath that innocuous trench coat, lurked The Thing? Affairs are often thinly disguised as only ‘being about sex’. …

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Not Wanting to Let Go

Whilst this post isn’t directly about the emotional aftermath after infidelity, it does have relevance. Often, when a cheater leaves the primary relationship (for the affair partner, or not) the faithful partner who is left behind can find it incredibly difficult to let go of the relationship. The reality is …

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Traps That Keep You Stuck

Infidelity & Affair Help: Chump Lady

Five Things That Keep You Stuck With a Cheater by Tracy Schorn Are you on the fence about leaving a cheater? Is this not their first rodeo? Here are some common traps that keep you stuck with a cheater and prevent you from moving on. 1. Hope. Codependency has been …

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Hope vs Wishcraft

Related post: The Dangers of Hopium ~ Wayfarer [hr] Hope versus Wishcraft by Jeff Murrah Many of you may be wanting your marriage to survive the affair. In your determination to save your marriage you find yourself making wishes about what will happen. You may even refer to your ‘wishing’ …

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Reasons to Leave a Cheater

10 Reasons Not to Take Back a Cheating Husband by Kiri Blakeley Being cheated on is probably the most devastating thing that can happen to a relationship short of the other person dying. Actually, it can FEEL like your partner has died when you find how he (or she) has …

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Once a Cheat Always a Cheat?

Tracey Cox Infidelity Affair

Is ‘once a cheat always a cheat’ really true? by Tracey Cox Tracey Cox helps you decide whether or not it’s time to walk away When New York mayoral candidate Anthony Weiner got caught sending explicit sex texts for a second time, his wife Huma stood by him. While some …

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