Did You Cause the Affair? The reactions to discovering an affair are manifold, but the immediate reaction to the discovery of an affair is generally not, “I did this, I caused this.” The initial reaction is more commonly one of an outraged, “How could you?!” In this reaction is the …
In our experience, therapists working with couples after an affair often seem to operate from a foundation of “keeping couples together” at all costs, no matter the nature of the fracture in the relationship. Not all relationships should be saved, and not all post-affair relationships should be reconciled. Infidelity is …
When Fantasy Crosses the Line By Lynn Margolies, Ph.D. Fantasizing about another person may seem like a harmless indulgence, but it actually draws us closer to temptation and can increase the risk of being unfaithful. In the same way that dwelling on worries and possible catastrophes fuels anxiety and makes …
This article is sourced from PsychPage which is a site that looks at various psychology issues from the perspective of the therapist/psychologist. Therapy is not a magic cure-all, and there is little value in attending couples’ therapy if one partner is either unwilling to go, or still engaged in an …
Healing From Infidelity and Depression by Rona Subotnik There are many feelings that people experience after discovering that their spouse has had an affair. The first is usually shock so strong that it feels like being punched in the stomach or having difficulty catching your breath. The shock can feel …
Affair Repair by Amy Begel Conventional knowledge suggests that extramarital affairs produce irreversible damage to a marriage. But in my long experience as a marriage and family therapist, I have heard many couples express some version of gratitude for the affair — not initially, or course, but toward the end …
Erotic Recovery After Infidelity by Dr Tammy Nelson (edited) Erotic recovery is a fundamental part of healing after an affair. Your erotic life together is a very basic relationship need. After infidelity, going back to being erotically and intimately connected with your partner can be complicated. Erotic recovery encompasses all …
Interview With Carolyn Tucker: Infidelity Source: Carolyn Tucker (edited) Q1. When someone suspects their partner or spouse is having an affair, what should they do? Should they confront them without having the proof or should they confront only after having the evidence? I would suggest if someone suspects their partner or spouse is having …
