Confession: Why I Cheated On My Husband by Marina Pearson The four reasons I unearthed and what they taught me about love. “How could you have done this to me, to us? Who are you and who did I marry?” With tears in his eyes, my ex-husband shouted and screamed …
Causes of Affairs: Why Do People Cheat on Their Partners? by Margaret Paul PhD (edited) Self-Abandonment Cheating is quite common and the reasons are multiple. Rather than reviewing the many reasons that are the causes of affairs, I’m going to focus on one of the main one — self-abandonment. Self-abandonment …
The IHG position on the sex addiction model is discussed in: Part 3: Affair Fog Theory: Sex Addiction ~ Wayfarer [hr] Affairs: The Flame Addiction By Dr Scott Haltzman Part 2: In the second installment of a 3-part series, Dr. Haltzman explains—like a moth to a flame—why those who cheat …
A light-hearted look at the affair justification of, “I had an affair because I felt unappreciated on Mother’s Day” which is highlighted in AshMad’s registration statistics. This is a tongue-in-cheek article written by Rebel Wylie, an Australian mother who felt unappreciated and yet didn’t have an affair. ~ Wayfarer [hr] …
As we explored in It’s Not Infidelity - It’s Sex Addiction, despite popular culture labels, the idea of sex addiction is not based on any diagnostic criteria and was again recently excluded from the DSM (American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders). Claiming ‘sex addiction’ as cause …
A Psychologist’s Perspective on Affairs by Dr Janet Reibstein Studying affairs Twenty years ago I began an interview study* of couples in which one person (at least) was having or had had an affair. As a new parent, I could not fathom how contemporaries of mine had the inclination or …
When Infatuation Veers Toward Disenchantment by Christine Meinecke, Ph.D. Remember Jeff Goldblum’s line from Jurassic Park? “Oh, yeah. Oooh, ahhh, that’s how it always starts, but then later there’s running, then screaming.” Infatuation Romantic relationships almost always start out “oooh, ahhh.” Of course, older and wiser people tell us that …
Thinking Systems in Infidelity I don’t accept the commonly espoused opinion that infidelity is, at its core, caused by low self-esteem in the cheater. In my experience cheaters mostly demonstrate quite the opposite - and I might even suggest that often, cheaters can be rather revoltingly full of themselves. Infidelity …
Why We Love, Why We Cheat By Helen Fisher Anthropologist Helen Fisher takes on a tricky topic – love (and infidelity) – and explains its evolution, its biochemical foundations and its social importance. She closes with a warning about the potential disaster inherent in antidepressant abuse. Anthropologist Helen Fisher studies …
