Tag Archives: denial

Denial

7 September, 2013

Denial Makes the World Go Round by Benedict Carey Varieties of denial include inattention, passive acknowledgment, re-framing and willful blindness. For years she hid the credit card bills from her husband: The $2,500 embroidered coat from Neiman Marcus. The $900 beaded scarf from Blake in Chicago. A $600 pair of …

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Affair Help: When Non-Monogamy Isn’t an Affair

9 March, 2013
Infidelity & Affair Help: Polyamory

There are numerous attempts at definitions for what constitutes an affair. Typically affairs are categorized as either an emotional affair, or a physical affair, but both terms suggest a consistent interaction between the cheater and another person over a period of time. These two labels alone (or even the term …

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Gaslighting & Denial in Affairs

2 March, 2013

I was browsing some articles from my RSS feed and happened across an article that listed some excuses that cheaters have given their partners when discovered in an affair. I selected some of the more eye-rollingly terrible ones to duplicate here.   Infidelity & Affair Excuses My friend was texting …

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Public Infidelity, Private Debate

21 February, 2013
Infidelity & Affairs: Think no evil!

Not My Husband (Right?) By Jan Hoffman, NYT Published March 16, 2008 (edited) WHAT type of infidelity is forgivable in a marriage? What triggers an exit strategy? So ran at least one of the many hair-splitting strains of mesmerized chatter this week among women, especially current and former wives in …

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The Illusion that Infidelity Built

11 December, 2012

The Rationalization Behind Cheating by huxbux at The Thought Refuse (edited) Chances are if you’re an adult, you’ve been in a relationship that ended because either yourself, or your significant other, cheated.  There is a distinct rationalizing process that occurs on the part of the cheater, both during the affair and …

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Justifying Infidelity

30 November, 2012

How Straying Partners Tend To Justify Infidelity Internally by infidelityinfo.com Recently I was asked “what goes through the mind of a straying spouse during an affair?” This is a tricky question as most people would agree that when they got engaged and planned their wedding, the last thing on their …

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Infidelity: The Internal Justifications

24 October, 2012

How Straying Partners Tend To Justify Infidelity Internally By Meghan Cole, Psychotherapist & Clinical Substance Abuse Counselor Recently I was asked “what goes through the mind of a straying spouse during an affair?” This is a tricky question as most people would agree that when they got engaged and planned …

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