Tag Archives: therapy

The Guilt Trip to Therapy

13 December, 2013

Did You Cause the Affair? The reactions to discovering an affair are manifold, but the immediate reaction to the discovery of an affair is generally not, “I did this, I caused this.” The initial reaction is more commonly one of an outraged, “How could you?!” In this reaction is the …

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Fantasies and Affairs

17 May, 2013
Infidelity & Affair Help: Therapy

When Fantasy Crosses the Line By Lynn Margolies, Ph.D. Fantasizing about another person may seem like a harmless indulgence, but it actually draws us closer to temptation and can increase the risk of being unfaithful. In the same way that dwelling on worries and possible catastrophes fuels anxiety and makes …

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Affair Help: Negative Thoughts and Acceptance

2 May, 2013

An affair can bring your self-esteem and view of the world crashing down around you, while you stand frozen in rage and disbelief. Moving past outrage and moralizing about what is wrong about an affair can be difficult. Most affair help offers very little in concrete advice for how to …

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Affair Help: Abuse, Blame & Minimization

26 April, 2013
Infidelity & Affair Help: Chump Lady

This article ties in with yesterday’s post where the idea that a cheater was ‘driven’ to an affair by the faithful partner was addressed (or ridiculed, let’s be honest). Tracy Schorn homes in on the issue of blame being apportioned to the cheater. My only comment is this: HOPIUM? This …

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Affair Help: The Revenge Affair

19 April, 2013

Revenge For An Affair: Is It Best Served Hot? By Dr Joy Davidson (edited) When New York Governor Eliot Spitzer resigned in the aftermath of scandal over his involvement with escorts, his successor, Lt. Gov., David Paterson, decided to preempt future public scrutiny by coming clean about his own marital …

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Affair Help: The Psychology of Affairs

13 April, 2013
Infidelity & Affair Help: Robert Weiss

There is less of a divide between the reasons that men and women cheat than is commonly believed. Infidelity and affairs are not restricted to gender, and the underlying reasons for it share considerable common ground between the sexes. This article was written specifically about men who engage in affairs, …

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Affair Help: What You Can Expect in Therapy

12 April, 2013
Infidelity & Affair Help: Therapy

This article is sourced from PsychPage which is a site that looks at various psychology issues from the perspective of the therapist/psychologist. Therapy is not a magic cure-all, and there is little value in attending couples’ therapy if one partner is either unwilling to go, or still engaged in an …

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The Emotional Aftermath of an Affair

6 February, 2013

Healing From Infidelity and Depression by Rona Subotnik There are many feelings that people experience after discovering that their spouse has had an affair. The first is usually shock so strong that it feels like being punched in the stomach or having difficulty catching your breath. The shock can feel …

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