Cheating Husband Accused of Murder

Cheating husband ‘tried to hide affair with fake texts’

by Sam Marsden, The Telegraph

Alan Evans and his lover Amanda Chadwick swapped apparently innocent text messages to ‘throw their partners off the scent’ a month before Mr Evans’s wife Louise was murdered, Worcester Crown Court hears

An adulterous husband tried to hide his affair from his wife by getting his mistress to send him text messages that falsely suggested their relationship was entirely innocent, a court heard on Wednesday.

Alan Evans attempted to throw his spouse Louise “off the scent” after she became suspicious that he was cheating on her with a teaching assistant at their children’s school, the jury was told.

Mr Evans, 35, is accused of murdering his 32-year-old wife by pushing her down the stairs at their home and placing a skipping rope next to her body to make it look like an accident.

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His mistress, Amanda Chadwick, 30, told Worcester Crown Court on Wednesday that she and Mr Evans exchanged text messages in June last year designed to persuade their partners that they were not having a sexual relationship.

(See articles on Gaslighting: The Fine Art of Making You Believe You’re Crazy and Affairs: Denial and Obfuscation.)

One from Miss Chadwick read: “Seriously, she must not know me at all. If she did, she would know I am trying to save my marriage, not have an affair.”

She told the jury that the texts were intended for Mrs Evans and her then-husband Simon to read.

“They weren’t true. I still loved him [Mr Evans]. We must have talked about making sure that they still didn’t find out,” she said.

Mr Evans and Miss Chadwick began their affair after meeting in the school playground in autumn 2011.

They would sneak off to budget hotels for illicit encounters as well as having sex in their own marital beds while their partners were away.

However, Mrs Evans found out about their affair when she discovered that her husband and Miss Chadwick had exchanged more than 1,000 text messages, including some late at night.

(Telephone records are one of the most common tools for affair discovery.)

The wife confronted the teaching assistant and threatened to tell her school what was going on.

This prompted Miss Chadwick to sent Mr Evans a text message that read: “That fat bitch is going into school to complain about me to the headteacher, and says she’s going to do whatever it takes to lose my job and make my life hell.”

(It is entirely predictable and commonplace for cheaters to want zero negative impact on their lives and lifestyle. They feel entitled to their affair AND the benefits of the life they have with their respective spouses, and feel victimized and unfairly treated when they suffer any consequences for their choices.)

Miss Chadwick told the court: “I wanted to end my marriage, I wanted to kick Simon out. But I wanted to do it the right way, on our terms, to sit them down and tell them.

(More commonly, the affair couple makes these plans without any concrete timeframe or intent. It feeds into their perception of the romance of their situation, where they cast themselves as making a noble sacrifice to ‘wait’ and do it ‘right’, all the time suffering listlessly in the real lives that they tell each other are so awful.)

“Louise called me, she asked me why I there were over 1,000 text messages between me and her husband. I didn’t realise there were that many.

“She asked me why I was texting her husband at certain times of the night. I said it was because he was working.

(The standard denial response is to be expected. Despite the plans to end the marriage, having the drama, ‘romance’ and control taken out of the equation leaves the affair partners facing a loss of lifestyle and security should they pursue their ‘true love’.)

“I felt stupid and awful, I knew she wasn’t stupid, I knew in the back of her mind she knew. I respected her, even though I was having an affair with her husband.”

(Yes, because calling the wife, ‘that fat bitch’ is clearly a sign of respect, regardless of the fact that you were having an affair with her husband.)

The jury heard that the adulterous couple discussed running away together and having children of their own.

Miss Chadwick also revealed that Mr Evans had joked about his wife’s problems getting pregnant just weeks before her death.

“It was insensitive. If anyone had said it about myself I would be mortified,” she said.

Miss Chadwick claimed she became friends with Mrs Evans even though she was having an affair with her husband, and would go to the cinema with her.

(A shining example of keeping your friends close and your enemies closer, because that’s all the better to fool them into thinking you’re a friend who isn’t having an affair with your husband.)

However, she told the jury that she was in love with Mr Evans, and wrote to him in one message: “Let’s not waste time, let’s plan for our lives. Somebody up there must know we deserve each other.”

(This is a typical cheater rationale, building a narrative around their affair by justifying that a divine being had a personal hand in bringing the lovers together. That this fable doesn’t take account of the wrongs the divine being would visit upon the faithful partners when ‘creating’ this union of souls in the affair relationship, doesn’t seem to deter the cheaters from indulging their fantastical story of kismet engineered by some benevolent cupid.)

Mrs Evans, a care worker, was found dead by paramedics at the foot of the staircase in the couple’s semi-detached home in Kidderminster, Worcestershire, on July 10 last year. There was a skipping rope close to her body and a vacuum cleaner at the top of the stairs.

Mr Evans, a welder, denies murder, claiming that he was asleep on the sofa at the time and his wife must have fallen by accident. The trial continues.



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