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The Trauma of Infidelity

This article by Robert Weiss explores infidelity and characterizes it as trauma. Dr David J. Ley’s article, Abusing the Term Trauma takes the counter-argument that the term trauma is inappropriately used by clinicians (and the lay person) in relation to infidelity. Mr Weiss makes reference to the emotional fallout and symptoms that the betrayed partner […]

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Affair Help: Negative Thoughts and Acceptance

An affair can bring your self-esteem and view of the world crashing down around you, while you stand frozen in rage and disbelief. Moving past outrage and moralizing about what is wrong about an affair can be difficult. Most affair help offers very little in concrete advice for how to deal with the emotional fallout […]

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Affairs: Letting Go of the Past

Affairs: Victor or Victim - It’s Your Choice by Elizabeth Denham As long as you think that the cause of your problem is “out there”-as long as you think that anyone or anything is responsible for your suffering-the situation is hopeless. It means that you are forever in the role of victim, that you’re suffering […]

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Affair Help: Triggers, Hype, and Healing

I’m mindful to avoid perpetuating certain myths that exist on other infidelity sites and discussion fora, particularly the ones that seem to perpetuate the ‘diagnosis’ or belief that infidelity and affairs are always the product of mental health challenges. They are not. Some of these sites additionally seem to universally decree that every faithful spouse […]

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Affair Help: Coping With Mind Movies

Yesterday’s post explored why the betrayed partner is often plagued by recurrent images of their partner being with the other person, and how intrusive and destructive that can be. Providing affair help and resources for infidelity is our focus at Infidelity Help Group. The membership here draw upon both their education about infidelity and their […]

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