In our experience, therapists working with couples after an affair often seem to operate from a foundation of “keeping couples together” at all costs, no matter the nature of the fracture in the relationship. Not all relationships should be saved, and not all post-affair relationships should be reconciled. Infidelity is indicative of a larger pattern […]
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Divorce After an Affair: Does it Matter?
A Note From Infidelity Help Group: The information in this post may not be pertinent to you, or your specific state or country’s laws. This article has been reproduced here for interest only, and is not intended to replace or give legal advice or counsel. You should consult an attorney licensed to practice in your […]
Affairs: Letting Go of the Past
Affairs: Victor or Victim - It’s Your Choice by Elizabeth Denham As long as you think that the cause of your problem is “out there”-as long as you think that anyone or anything is responsible for your suffering-the situation is hopeless. It means that you are forever in the role of victim, that you’re suffering […]
After an Affair: Trust … and When to Let Go.
By Wayfarer on 15 February, 2013 in Consequences, Coping, Divorce, Empowerment, Healing, Moving On, Personal Growth, Reconciliation, Trust
Trust After an Affair: Your Cheating Heart By Lee Nelson/Healthy Life Three years ago, Rachel from Schenectady had a lot of secrets. She was having an affair. “My husband knew I had an inappropriate relationship with another man — talking, texting, e-mailing and flirting. But he never believed I cheated in the physical sense. He […]
Infidelity = Divorce?
By Wayfarer on 25 January, 2013 in Consequences, Coping, Divorce, Marriage, Myths, Reconciliation, Trends
Does Cheating Automatically Mean Divorce? by Sari Eckler Cooper Is it possible to move on after a spouse has had an affair? As a certified sex and licensed couples therapist, I have worked with many couples in the aftermath of an affair. Those first few weeks and months seem crazy to the hurt partner as […]