Before rushing into a reconciliation after an affair, pause and consider the relationship you were actually in. Affairs are examples of part of broader patterns of behavior and thinking, and it isn’t uncommon for the relationship or marriage to be unhealthy in other ways too. ~ Wayfarer 9 Signs That You Might Be In An […]
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Affairs & Immunity
Don’t Think Your Marriage is Affair-Proof! by Harriet Lerner Ph.D When you feel threatened by a partner’s relationship outside the marriage, speak up. You can’t stamp out his desire for others, nor can you stop her from being unfaithful. But that doesn’t mean that you have to shut up, or blind yourself to a potential […]
The Affair Threat of Cross-Gender Friendships
There are many articles and advice columns that offer advice on how to ‘affair-proof’ your marriage/relationship. One affair-proofing-rule that is often postulated is that those in committed, monogamous relationships should avoid cross-gender friendships. The rationale behind this is often that there is always some hidden sexual agenda for one or both friends, or the likelihood […]
Affair Help: Redefining Monogamy
After an Affair by Ian Kerner (edited) We’ve all heard the adage: “Once a cheater, always a cheater.” If your partner has been unfaithful, you’re likely getting all sorts of advice from well-meaning friends and family. Much of that advice may involve ending your relationship. Yet it’s possible — and perhaps even beneficial — to […]